After Your Child’s Suicide Attempt

After Your Child’s Suicide Attempt is a one-hour film providing support and guidance for parents and caregivers after their child has attempted suicide.

 

 

About the Film

The aftermath of a child’s suicide attempt can be a deeply confusing, scary, and emotional time for parents and caregivers. While healthcare professionals, school leaders, and others may address many of their questions, hearing directly from parents who have been there can be especially supportive.

"Many parents and caregivers have needed this for a very, very long time" — Viewer

After Your Child’s Suicide Attempt is a free resource for providers, schools, and community organizations to share with parents and caregivers after their child has attempted suicide. The one-hour film answers questions often raised by caregivers and describes best practices in suicide care that parents can go back to in the days and weeks following their child’s suicide-related crisis. The film is not meant to replace care from providers but rather to augment care from professionals, as caregivers can return to it again and again.

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Audience

After Your Child’s Suicide Attempt is helpful for any parent or caregiver whose child has recently made a suicide attempt or talked about suicide. Emergency departments, inpatient hospitals, residential care, crisis services, mobile crisis units, community mental health providers, pediatricians, schools, substance misuse professionals, peer advocates, faith leaders, and other community organizations can all play a role in adding the video to their toolbox of supports for caregivers. 

Film & Resources

You may directly share the film with parents and caregivers by linking them to the Watch the Film tab above. In addition to the film, we have curated a set of resources for parents and caregivers as well as the healthcare providers, educators, and community organizations who support them. These resources can be accessed via the More Resources tab.

Additional Materials

The following tools are intended to help start a conversation with parents and caregivers who may be able to benefit from the After Your Child’s Suicide Attempt film:

After Your Child’s Suicide Attempt was created jointly by Zero Suicide at EDC and Parents to Parents, a non-profit organization that offers resources to caregivers whose child is struggling with mental health challenges or concerns. This film was made possible in part by the generous support of the Four Pines Fund.

 

Watch the Film

Learning that your child is having thoughts of suicide or has made an attempt can be overwhelming. But you are not alone. After Your Child’s Suicide Attempt captures many of the questions and feelings that caregivers may experience.

"Very tactile and tangible. When any of us go through a traumatic experience, we want to know what we have to do, what do I do next?" — Viewer

The parents interviewed for this film have all had a child in suicidal crisis and understand the complex emotions and challenges that follow. They are joined by experts in suicide care and prevention. Together, their insights offer caregivers practical guidance for the days and weeks after an attempt and—most importantly—messages of hope. People do get better, recover, and create lives worth living.

The intention of this film is to:

  • Describe what to expect in the days and weeks following a child’s suicide-related crisis
  • Provide information on how to access effective treatment
  • Offer insights on how parents and caregivers can best support their child and family
  • Validate the feelings that can accompany a child’s suicide-related crisis
  • Direct parents and caregivers to additional supportive resources

Film & Chapters

The film is one hour long. You may want to watch the film in its entirety the first time. It is also available in chapters for you to return to specific sections.

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Chapter 1: Introduction

Provides context for After Your Child's Suicide Attempt film.

Chapter 2: You Are Not Alone

Introduces parents of children who have been through a suicidal crisis. 90% of those who attempt suicide do not go on to die by suicide.

Chapter 3: Your Emotions

Acknowledges complex and challenging emotions of caregivers: guilt, panic, fear, numbness, feeling like a failure. 

Chapter 4: Understanding Your Child

Highlights the factors that may contribute to a child’s suicidal thoughts, and that parents’ anger is at the situation, not their child. 

Chapter 5: Don't Blame

Delves into common feelings of caregiver guilt and the myth that good parents would not have children who attempt suicide. 

Chapter 6: Understanding a Suicidal Episode

Conveys that suicidality is like a storm in a young person’s head and highlights teen brain development as a factor. 

Chapter 7: Hospitalization and Parental Rights

Highlights parental rights and limitations of consent; provides advice to caregivers of young people over 18. 

Chapter 8: The Safety Plan

Explains what a safety plan is and the importance of decreasing access to methods the child mentions having considered. 

Chapter 9: Bringing Your Child Home

Acknowledges fear and provides advice to caregivers on engaging with and supporting their child after a suicidal crisis. 

Chapter 10: After Hospitalization

Provides practical steps on aftercare appointments with different kinds of providers, things to research and therapies to ask about, how parents can seek support for themselves. 

Chapter 11: Establishing Communication

Offers strategies for caregivers to connect with their child such as safety scale, reflective listening, ways to empathize and create paths for open sharing. 

Chapter 12: Establishing Communication

Provides examples and approaches for parents to ask their child if they are suicidal, and to listen empathetically. 

Chapter 13: Ask the Question

Highlights the need for all caregivers to be on the same page, provides guidance for including siblings in the conversation, encourages asking the child who they are ok sharing with. 

Chapter 14: Back to School

Offers practical advice for parents to advocate for their child with schools, as well as balancing caring and safety with trusting their child to engage in activities they enjoy. 

Chapter 15: Self-Care

Provides concrete ideas for how caregivers can take care of themselves and find peer supports. 

Chapter 16: There is Hope

Emphasizes that most people do recover and encourages parents to focus on the sparks of progress. 

After the Film

We Want to Hear from You

After watching the film, please complete this 5-minute survey. Your responses can help us improve this and future resources. All survey responses gathered here are confidential and will only be shared in aggregate without identifying information when presented publicly. Thank you in advance for your participation.

Get More Support

We have curated a set of resources for parents and caregivers as well as the healthcare providers, educators, and community organizations who support you.

Spread the Word

If you would like to help spread the word about the film, we have recommendations and resources available.

After Your Child’s Suicide Attempt was created jointly by Zero Suicide at EDC and Parents to Parents, a non-profit organization that offers resources to caregivers whose child is struggling with mental health challenges or concerns. This film was made possible in part by the generous support of the Four Pines Fund.

 

More Resources

The following resources are available for parents and caregivers after a child’s suicide attempt, as well as for providers, schools, and community organizations that support them. They may be used alongside After Your Child’s Suicide Attempt.
 

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10 Things to Say to a Suicidal Person
Written by Dr. Stacey Freedenthal and posted to National Alliance on Mental Illness Queens/ Nassau, this post provides ten statements you can say to a person considering suicide, along with the context and rational behind them.
988 Lifeline
If you or someone you know is in suicidal crisis, please call 988. The 988 Lifeline provides one-on-one skilled and compassionate mental health and substance use support for anyone at any time. People can text or call 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org 24/7.
AFSP Support Groups
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) has local chapters in all 50 states.  These chapters aim to create an informed mental health culture through community programs, educational opportunities, research, advocacy, and support. 
After An Attempt
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention offers this resource to help people navigate and process their emotions following their suicide attempt. Included are safety plan resources, tips on interacting with family and friends, and reassurance that the attempt survivor is not alone.
After Your Child's Suicide Attempt Flyer
This flyer can be posted in community areas accessible to parents, care providers, and other supporters.
After Your Child's Suicide Attempt One-Pager

This one-page informational material can be given to care providers to explain the content and purpose of the After Your Child's Suicide Attempt film.

Crisis Text Line
Crisis Text Line provides free, 24/7, high-quality text-based mental health support and crisis intervention by empowering a community of trained volunteers to support people in their moments of need. Text "Home" to 741741. 
Emotionally Naked

This book by Anne Moss Rogers and Kimberly H McManama O'Brien, initially intended for school personnel, can serve to inform parents on what schools can and should be doing to help children with suicidal thoughts. 

Family Connections™ – Managing Suicidality & Trauma Recovery Program
This free course, developed by the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder, provides skills and support for parents of children dealing with self-harm or suicidal behaviors. Through this program, parents learn to manage the stress and trauma they experience while supporting their child, as well as how to respond to the child's crisis behavior.
Family Life After Attempt
This article by Pepperdine University offers statistics and recommendations aimed to help families navigate life after an attempt.  This article addresses topics including ensuring a safe return home, understanding the emotional toll on family members, communicating with your child or teen after an attempt, and getting back to "regular life.”
Guiding Their Way Back
The Beyond Blue, Australia guide provides resources specifically tailored to support everyday people following a suicide attempt. This resource acts as a starting point for working through the difficult, and at times overwhelming, questions that can arise following an attempt.
Helping Kids Who Are Thinking of Suicide
Experts from Nationwide's Children's Hospital's Center for Suicide Prevention Research have compiled a list of things to remember when supporting a child who is thinking about suicide.  This resource includes statistics, suggestions for initiating conversation, and tips on how to preserve your own mental health while supporting your loved one.
Helping Your Loved One Who is Suicidal: A Guide for Family and Friends
From  the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Department (SAMHSA), this guide will help families who have a loved one who is suicidal or has made a suicide attempt. It will provide information on understanding suicide, warning signs and action steps to take, and how to prevent future attempts and keep your loved one safe.
Holding Onto Life Toolkit
Developed by Macomb County Suicide Prevention Coalition, this free toolkit supplies parents with data and best practices for supporting an adolescent with suicidal ideation.  This resource addresses the mentality behind suicidal ideation, as well as how to identify signs of suicidality, and how to have conversations about mental health with adolescents.
How to Help a Youth Return to School After an Attempt
Created by the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill Research, this infographic depicts key statistics on youth suicide and offers data-driven solutions on how school systems can support returning students.
Ideas of How to Talk to Your Child About Suicide
This resource by Anne Moss Rogers highlights important steps and considerations for supporting someone who has shared their suicidal ideation with you.  The resource acknowledges the complexities of providing support, and provides tactical and emotional support for the caregiver. 
Loving Someone with Suicidal Thoughts
Written by Dr. Stacey Freedenthal, this book provides guidance on supporting your loved one while also looking out for your own mental health. The book tackles questions such as "What are signs and clues of risk?" "What do I say and do after an attempt?" and "What can I do to cope better?”
NAMI Family Support Groups
The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) provides free, confidential family support groups for families living with mental health challenges. These groups help families support other families in their area through collective lived experience and learned group wisdom.
Pause to Protect 
Managing access to lethal means is an important step in developing a safety plan. The Pause to Protect website includes a national map of firearm businesses willing to consider voluntary, temporary firearm storage, along with materials for businesses and customers.
Prevent Suicide: Ask the Question
This article from Seattle Children's Hospital highlights the importance of asking the question "Are you thinking about suicide?" and provides parents with knowledge to help them identify warning signs, contact support services, and prevent suicide attempts for their child.
Speaking of Suicide
Speaking of Suicide is a curated website dedicated to addressing the complexity of suicide through a variety of posts and resources. Topics covered include what to do if you are thinking of suicide, friends and family support, survivor stories, and professional recommendations.
Stanley-Brown Safety Plan
The Stanley-Brown Safety Plan is a form developed by Stanley-Brown Safety Planning Intervention intended to help individuals develop a plan of action when thoughts of suicide occur. This action plan has users identify triggers, coping strategies, and people to help distract them from suicidal thoughts, people to contact in a crisis, professional agencies to contact in a crisis, and plans for lethal means safety.
Suicide Prevention Resources and Support for Friends & Family
Sorting through available articles and research on suicide can be overwhelming. To alleviate some of this burden, CAMS-care has created a collection of articles as a starting point. These articles touch on topics such as identifying risk factors and warning signs, what to expect from calling 988, how to find the right therapist, and tips for parents with struggling children.
Supporting Marriage When a Child Has Major Mental Illness(es)
In this article, the  Newport Academy highlights difficulties in a marriage that may come from supporting a child who is suicidal. This resource offers explanations, validations, and solutions to possible problems, and provides tips on how to keep your partnership strong as you support your loved one.
Talking About Suicide with Your Child Under Age 12
This article, written by Dr. John Ackerman, presents parents with steps on how to create a safe place to talk about suicide with their young child. Included is a video of Dr. Ackerman identifying and addressing suicidal behavior in children 12 and under.
Talking to Kids About a Sibling Suicide Attempt by Age Appropriateness 
This resource from the United States Department of Veterans Affairs provides age-specific guidance on discussing a sibling's suicide attempt. Divided into "preschool age," "school age," and "teenage" sections, this resource addresses the nuances of suicide discussions based on age and offers helpful tips to ensure that the sibling of the suicide survivor is properly supported.
Teen Line
Teen Line provides support, resources, and hope to young people through a hotline of professionally trained teen counselors. Available from 6PM-10PM PST, Call 800-852-8336 or Text "Teen" to 839863.
Teen Suicide Prevention 
In this video from the Mayo Clinic, teens describe common warning signs of suicidal ideation among their peers and encourage direct communication and immediate support and safety.
The Adolescent Safety and Coping Plan
The Adolescent Safety and Coping Plan (ASCP) is a safety planning intervention designed for adolescents at risk for suicide and their families. Developed by Kimberly McManama O'Brien and colleagues, the ASCP is tailored for adolescents returning home from hospital level of care (but can be used at any level of care).
The Trevor Hotline
The Trevor Hotline provides support for LGBTQ young people. Their trained counselors understand the challenges LGBTQ young people face and are available for support 24/7. Text "Start" to 678-678 or Call 866-488-7386.
What to Do, What to Say
Written by Anne Moss Rogers, this eBook focuses on how to manage conversations regarding suicide, and how to navigate the emotions that come with supporting a suicidal child. The eBook provides script examples on how to initiate a conversation about suicide, what questions to ask the child, and how to build resiliency as you provide support.

After Your Child’s Suicide Attempt was created jointly by Zero Suicide at EDC and Parents to Parents, a non-profit organization that offers resources to caregivers whose child is struggling with mental health challenges or concerns. This film was made possible in part by the generous support of the Four Pines Fund.